Glittering fairy lights stretch as far as the eye can see, chandeliers hang in abundance, sofas look like they’ve been plucked from the world’s most famous palaces, and the food? Fit for royalty. This is a typical Pakistani wedding today. Let’s pause and reflect though: is all that extravagance really necessary?
For many Pakistani families, weddings are no longer just celebrations — they’re financial burdens. With soaring inflation and growing social pressure to “outdo” the last event, the true essence of marriage often gets lost beneath layers of designer clothes, elaborate décor, and endless functions. A standard urban wedding in Pakistan can cost anywhere from PKR 3 million to PKR 10 million or more. From bridal couture that costs more than most people earn in a year to extravagant mehndi nights and destination receptions, couples — and often their parents — spend fortunes on fleeting moments. But what if we chose purpose over pomp?
In today’s world, making informed decisions has become essential. Yes, a wedding is an important occasion and deserves celebration, but a touch of simplicity can make it even more meaningful. Joy isn’t sacrificed — it’s refined. And as the festive wedding season approaches, Mindful is here to offer readers simple changes that help celebrate with intention.
Simplifying the Wedding Calendar:
Gone are the days when a wedding was one simple event followed by a valima. Today, we see dholkis, bridal showers, mehndis, mayuns, nikkah, receptions, and after-parties — all spread over weeks. Limiting celebrations to just two main events (nikkah + reception/valima) can save millions. It also makes it easier for guests, who won’t feel pressured to attend multiple functions.
Smaller Guest Lists, Bigger Impact:
A smaller guest list not only feels more personal but also drastically reduces costs on food, seating, and décor. Surround yourself with people who truly matter — those who will celebrate with you, whether your wedding function is small or grand.
Rethinking Bridal & Groom Attire:
Bridal dresses worth lakhs are often worn just once, sometimes for only a few hours. Many brides today are opting for affordable, locally tailored outfits, heirloom jewelry, or even rented designer wear. Grooms don’t need over-the-top and flashy designer outfits either— a sharp local suit or kurta does the job beautifully.
Minimalist Décor for Maximum Charm:
Wedding setups can now be recreated with minimalistic floral arrangements, handmade crafts, and local décor vendors. Focus on aesthetics, not excess. Who misses the simple shamayanas of the 80s? A return to intimate, thoughtfully curated settings would be a refreshing change.
Nostalgic Charm: Lessons from the Past:
Talk to any elder, and you’ll hear how weddings used to be short, soulful, and deeply communal. Many brides chose to wear their mother’s wedding dress- honouring family legacy and cherished memories- food was cooked at home with the help of aunties and neighbors, and the entire neighbourhood came to celebrate. Dholkis were held in living rooms with dholaks, parandas, homemade gulab jamun, and heartfelt singing — not choreographed dance performances. Photo albums were simple, rituals were meaningful, and the joy was real.
Bringing Back the Simple Joys:
We can bring back this nostalgic charm by hosting dholkis at home with cousins playing music instead of hiring DJs, serving traditional desserts made by family members, and encouraging handwritten notes or small gifts instead of ornate giveaways. Simplicity doesn’t diminish celebration — it enhances connection and joy.
By embracing these practices, we not only stay connected to our roots but also save money that can be invested in the couple’s future. Instead of worrying about how the world perceives us, the focus shifts to what truly matters — creating heartening celebrations that benefit our own lives and the life of the new couple.
Minahil Hussain is a freelance content writer. She can be reached at minahilhussain35@gmail.com
